When To Kick Wedding Traditions To The Curb
Traditions are amazing… except when they interfere with your happily-ever-after. In this entry, I bring up a few occasions when you may want to throw wedding traditions to the curb in exchange for something more fitting for the two of you. These are only suggestions and it’s important to discuss all these decisions to ensure you’re both on the same page with your planning.
Is it outdated - If a tradition doesn’t feel relevant or meaningful in the modern world (or more importantly, to you in general) you may want to ask yourself if it deserves a place in your celebration. While it’s typical to follow some guidelines when planning your big day you want to make the most of your time and enjoy the experience as much as possible.
Does it go against your values - If a tradition goes against your values or beliefs it probably doesn’t belong on your timeline. I mean, who wants to throw a huge party and feel the need to pretend for everyone else? This is your day and your wants should carry the most weight.
Does it feel generic - Couples may have cultural backgrounds that differ from traditional wedding customs. Because of this, they might choose to incorporate elements of their own culture instead of adhering to mainstream traditions that don’t really fit who they are. Whenever possible, take matters into your own hands and make the experience what you want it to be. You’ve got this.
Is it causing extra stress or unnecessary expense - Some wedding traditions can be stressful or costly. If a tradition feels more like a burden than something you’re looking forward to, you might want to skip it or alter it in some way to make it less troublesome.
Are you looking to break the mold - Every now and then, a couple will want to throw out all tradition in place of something entirely unique to them. In times like these there’s really no need to follow someone else’s playbook. Change what the word “Wedding” means and create your own fairytale. If there was ever a time to mark your own path it was now.
Traditions help us feel connected with those that have gone before. Still, with such an important day you want to make sure you are being true to yourselves and not getting tangled in old ways. Weddings are a personal journey just as much as the relationships they honor. Remember to make yours as meaningful as you can.