How Elopements Differ From Traditional Weddings
Elopements are one of those things that are often misunderstood. Some people think eloping means a quick ten-minute ceremony at City Hall. Others may envision a majestic hike to the top of a mountain with only a few people sharing in the adventure. Well, both of these can be correct as well as an infinite number of other scenarios. At the heart of eloping is the idea that the experience should focus on the couple whereas typical weddings tend to focus a lot on the guests. Below, I break down some of the bigger pieces of the elopement puzzle so you can decide if it might be the best route for you and your partner.
Size - Elopements are usually much smaller in size compared to traditional weddings. Instead of inviting a large number of guests, couples who elope often choose to have just a few close friends or family members present, if any at all. There tends to be a special type of intimacy when eloping since there are so few individuals involved.
Location - While traditional weddings might take place in churches or other formal venues, elopements can happen pretty much anywhere. Couples might chose a scenic outdoor location, a courthouse or even their own backyard. This allows the couple to be really creative with how their day goes down in history. We’re all unique in our own way and elopements allow you to extend that uniqueness even further.
Formality - Traditional weddings often involve numerous formalities, such as a wedding party, elaborate decorations, a sit-down dinner and formal attire of some kind. Elopements, on the other hand, tend to be more casual and relaxed. Since the focus is on the couple and their specific wants, the other stuff that doesn’t fit simply goes out the window.
Planning - Planning a traditional wedding typically takes many months with lots of things to check off the list like booking vendors, sending out invitations and coordinating various details. Elopements, while sometimes grand in scope, can usually be put together much quicker and with minimal fuss, making them a popular choice for couples who want to avoid the stress of a larger event.
Cost - We all know that traditional weddings can be expensive with costs quickly adding up for venues, catering, flowers and other expenses. Elopements are often much more budget-friendly, as they involve few, if any, guests and only cater to the couple. This isn’t to say that elopements are cheap in any way. Depending on the agenda, the cost can get up there pretty quickly. Still, with far fewer people involved in the celebration the expenses go directly to what the couple has planned for themselves.
Focus - As already mentioned, elopements are all about the couple and how they choose to celebrate their big day. This allows the couple to focus on each other and the significance of the moment as opposed to the other stresses that can come with putting together a bigger event.
While traditional weddings are often seen as grand celebrations involving family and friends, elopements offer a more quiet and personal way for couples to commit to each other. Neither way is better than the other - it all depends on what feels right for you. If you’re in the early stages of planning, it might be worth it to consider your options when it comes to eloping. Best of luck with your big day!